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11. Midlife Relationships: What Do We Want Now?
How can you be confident in every other part of your life and still be undone by somebody not replying to a text? That question came from a listener, and it opens our new series on midlife relationships. In this first episode we map out what's ahead: abandonment and defectiveness, libido and changing bodies, wanting a partner without wanting to share a house, age gaps, and dating apps. We also look at grey divorce, the ticking clock that was never real, and why loss is not always a lens.
Episode 7 — Burnout: Are We Burnt Out, or Are We Being Told We Are?
Storming in is the last of our SOS coping styles, and the hardest to spot in yourself. Sometimes it looks like control: the friend who organises everything. Sometimes it looks like being needy, moody or hard to predict. And sometimes it's a perfectly pleasant conversation where you rubbish someone you secretly envy. We look at shame, envy and jealousy, why storming in feels powerful, what it costs, and how envy can stop being something to hide and start telling you what you want.
Episode 6 — I'm Happy For You. So Why Am I Jealous?
Storming in is the last of our SOS coping styles, and the hardest to spot in yourself. Sometimes it looks like control: the friend who organises everything. Sometimes it looks like being needy, moody or hard to predict. And sometimes it's a perfectly pleasant conversation where you rubbish someone you secretly envy. We look at shame, envy and jealousy, why storming in feels powerful, what it costs, and how envy can stop being something to hide and start telling you what you want.
Episode 5 — The Friendship Fade Out
Opting out is the O in SOS: going quiet, letting things drift, cancelling, or sitting right there at dinner with your head somewhere else entirely. In this episode we look at what avoidance does in friendships, why it works brilliantly for about an hour and badly after that, and how social media lets you stay technically in touch while sharing nothing. We also get into the difference that matters most: space you have actually chosen, and withdrawal you have fallen into.
Episode 4 — The Good Friend
Submitting is the S in SOS: people-pleasing, saying yes when you mean no, quietly putting yourself last. In this episode we get specific about what that looks like in friendships, from moulding yourself into the funny one at school to pulling over to apologise by text while lost with the petrol light on. We talk about why we do it, why it never delivers the connection we're after, and what the Lifeguard and RESET offer instead. Can you be a good enough friend without losing yourself?
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Answers to Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes, absolutely. The Unstuck podcast is our way of making schema therapy accessible to everyone. It is entirely free to watch on our website, YouTube or listen to on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.
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While Episode 1 provides a great introduction to who we are and the basics of schema therapy, you can jump in wherever you like! Feel free to scroll through the episodes and choose the topic that resonates most with how you are feeling today.
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Schema therapy is an evidence-based approach that helps you understand the deep-rooted patterns (schemas) driving your emotional reactions, self-doubt, and relationship struggles.
Our podcast translates these concepts into everyday language to help you build a kinder, more resilient "Healthy Adult" mindset.