Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns (and How to Get Unstuck) | Two Psychologists Talk

Two psychologists, Lisa and Tanya, introduce a new weekly series exploring the psychology behind everyday struggles—like people-pleasing, saying yes when you mean no, and repeating relationship patterns—and sharing practical ways to understand yourself and break old habits. They explain they’re starting now after a painful year that motivated them to make something good from bad, and because midlife conversations with friends are shifting toward menopause, grief, changing jobs, and balancing everything. Tanya describes burning out, leaving the NHS, and wanting to share psychology principles for free to give people a glimpse “behind the therapy door.” They discuss feeling stuck, facing difficult realities (including medical uncertainty), and the pressure on women to hold everything together, noting how autopilot coping styles can persist even when they no longer help