Do women become invisible after a certain age? We did not agree. One of us said no, look around. The other said yes, sometimes I do feel it. Once we got into it, we realised we were not talking about the same thing at all. Visibility can mean being found attractive, being listened to, having a role, feeling useful, or simply mattering. Perhaps the better question is not whether women disappear, but what happens when the particular way we were used to being seen begins to change.